Life is a season cycle, and the transition between seasons can be worrying. There may be a slight interruption in life that will soon be resolved. But when they persist, there is a crisis. Middle age is such a period that is considered a period of potential crisis.
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  Middle-aged people lived somewhere in the late 1930s to the late 1940s. It is different from the pre-menopausal years that occur in the future. Until the 20th century, only about 10% of women reached middle age. Their roles are well defined within the limited range of family and family, such as wife, mother, and family chore. The middle-aged crisis is unheard of.

However, the life extension of the 20th century is unbelievable, and women live in the 7th or 8th decade. Therefore, about 40 years or so, when the child's business is over and the children begin to insist on their independence, the women will see a seemingly vacuum life. Husbands may also be experiencing their middle-aged crisis, just like the irritated hedgehog. Or in the role transition, they become overly dependent on their wives. The woman began to get confused.

A woman may feel that life is passing her. "Who am I?" she wants to know. "Is my life counted?" An unexplained loneliness overcame her as if she had no real self-identity. She was frustrated by the realization of her fading beauty and energy. If there is a marriage dissatisfaction, this feeling of worthlessness will be complicated. In the 20th century, revolutionary changes have taken place in all aspects of life. Education, employment outside the home, the collapse of the family union system, the migration of the city's non-personal atmosphere, the transformation of gender roles, the women's liberation movement, youth culture and the rapid development of science and technology – all create a traditional woman's insecurity sense. As she struggled to keep up with the pace of change in the times, stress became part of her.

It is in this context that the middle-aged crisis is of great significance. Whether single, married or widowed, almost two-thirds of women have experienced this stage. A career-oriented master at the management level suddenly decided that she could not live alone. She remembered photos of imprisonment in some elderly people, and the prospects made her panic. So she frantically advertises a suitable spouse in the newspaper and may accidentally choose an unwelcome companion or enter an accommodation relationship. A sober middle-aged widow may decide to give herself a new image. She may visit a beautician to make her hair styling, eyebrows, eyebrows, wrinkles and botulinum toxins. She may even start using makeup and dressing like a teenager. She may flirt with an eligible man or with someone younger than her son. People noticed gossip and snickering, but the woman brags about the wind and is brazen about her behavior.

An unmet female desire may decide to give birth to an illegitimate child or rent her uterus. ' Some psychologists say that the middle-aged crisis is just a convenient excuse for irresponsible behavior. But it can be said that if this is the case, why do you have to wait until middle age to indulge yourself? Medieval is purely a short period, not worth worrying, but welcome. Crisis usually occurs when there is a lack of preparation. EM Blacklock said: "The Middle Ages is an era in which the fruits of life begin to mature."

Must be prepared. It's time to assess a person's self and study his lifestyle. People need to identify the factors that can cause a crisis and address them separately. Are you afraid of losing one's youth, sex and beauty? Do some gray, or sagging breasts or weight gain causing panic? A psychiatrist said: “It feels good and looks good, which is related to the balance between body and mind.” Longfellow assured us that “age is not just an opportunity for the youth itself, but another dress. ”
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  Exercise, a balanced diet, relaxation, and a general interest in the world around you bring the light back to the middle-aged face.

Is the marriage relationship boring? Then you need to work harder to change it. A little more love, communication and care can be prepared in a good way. The husband may also be experiencing a middle-aged crisis and may be uninterested or unable to respond to her feelings. Therefore, women must express her needs directly and specifically, let him understand that she is going through a difficult stage and longing for his understanding and love. A good husband not only emotionally supports his wife, but also gives her the space she needs to cultivate her sense of self-worth. If a woman suddenly becomes widowed in middle age, her depression may increase. Or she may rush into a thing that is not wise under pressure.

For a woman who has spent the best years of her life, she has found her identity and achievements in her children, recognizing that they no longer need her, and that there has been a wide generation gap between them, let her Feel marginal and useless. Middle-aged is also a time when a person becomes vulnerable to health. Obesity, high blood pressure, diabetes, diet restrictions, medication, exercise and other diseases make her aware of her mortality. She began to attack her own situation and fell into self-pity. The reduction in funds and funds after retirement also poses a threat to her inner security.
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  All of these stress factors have a snowball effect, which can threaten women's self-confidence and lead to altered behaviors such as depression, irritability, irrational behavior, self-confidence or libido. In fact, this stage is like experiencing a second emotional awareness. '

Expecting and preparing for the middle age can make the transition smoother. Life did not end at that stage. Freud and Thatcher said, "The Middle Ages is an era of discovery, not stagnation. This is the time for a new beginning – a threshold for enriching the future. If it is close to good humor and flexibility, And open to change, the middle years can be the best half of life. "Life has many different seasons. In every season, women need to reassess her values ​​from different perspectives. Whether she is single, married or widowed, she needs to bloom in her own identity, not her husband's rubber stamp or her child's doormat; even her own family should not be exploited. She must also be a decision maker and stick to herself when necessary.

Hobbies and new interests make life interesting. “Release your creativity,” Ann Morrow Lindbergh advised. Music, reading, travel, and painting are all emotional lifts.

Good friends are assets in difficult times. When a person needs to take something out of his chest, they are like confidence or as a sound board. They provide support during stress and depression. Groups like "Emotions Anonymous" help their members open up and talk about their problems. They learn from each other's experiences, help each other, and redefine their thoughts and values. They become happy and confident. Artificial props like drugs and alcohol are not the answer, nor are they a solution to additional marital problems. It may only lead to a feeling of guilt that is difficult to get rid of.

Husbands and children must realize that their supportive love can bring a magical middle-aged crisis. However, if no woman verbally expresses her needs and fears, they cannot know.
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  The search for introspection time, the refusal to condemn one’s fictional shortcomings, and the understanding of the temporary nature of this crisis are already halfway through. In the face of crisis, people tend to put God at the end. What Paul said in Philippians 3:13 is encouraging. "I am still not everything I should do, but I am doing everything I can to do it; forget the past and look forward to the future." Prayer has surpassed many crises.

Middle age is the first fall of a lifetime. Autumn will surely follow and will light up the personality with a golden tone of maturity and peace. Life will once again begin with a new vision for the future.

Female middle-aged crisis was originally published on Spring