When you just don’t know what to do and you are having doubts about your parenting skills, you may feel like you’re all alone in the world. You’re not! We’ve all been through it and we’ve all come through the other side better people and that includes our kids. Here are some tips on how we’ve dealt with a variety of parenting problems and survived.

Children often unconsciously reflect the image that parents project upon them, so make sure that whatever label you choose to apply to your child, it is a positive one. Instead of responding to a complaint of boredom with, “You’re driving me crazy, find something to keep yourself busy”, opt for a more encouraging directive: “You’ve always been such a great artists. Why don’t you try coloring or drawing for a few minutes?”

Exercise caution when diagnosing siblings who start to display symptoms of an illness shared by another brother or sister. Although families with multiple children often share germs, viruses, and illnesses, sharing medications or neglecting to take each child to the doctor increases the risk of health problems caused by unchecked or misdiagnosed ailments.

Place retro-reflective material on all children who go to school in order to make their backpack and clothing stand out. This material also comes in velcro strips which makes it easy to put on and take off. The reflection from these strips is especially important in the early light of the morning because it makes the child much more visible.

A great parenting tip is to encourage your child to participate in sports. By encouraging your child to participate in sports, you’re helping them socialize and stay fit at the same time. It can also be a great way to bond because they’ll remember how you always went to their games.

Even if your sick child begins to show signs of feeling better after a few days of antibiotics, you should follow the doctor’s orders exactly and finish the course of therapy. If your child does not finish the entire dosing plan, weakened bacteria may remain in his or system and become resistant to the antibiotics.

If you are concerned about germs and stickiness on your child’s plastic and rubber toys but don’t have the time to clean and dry each one, throw them in a mesh laundry bag and run them through your washing machine with a dye-free, fragrance-free detergent. Easy in, easy out!

When your children quarrel, take the opportunity to teach them to respect the other child’s personal boundaries, to help resolve the problem. You can help them learn to respect personal boundaries by first giving them the words to express their own boundaries. Your child can then protect his or her boundaries by moving away from the problem.

Playing outside with your child will benefit the both of you. Spending time together drawing with chalk on the driveway, will strengthen the bond between you both; many times opening doors to insightful conversation. Playing together outside will also help keep you both physically fit and help you to live happier, healthier lives.

Use your phone as a way to sooth your baby when you are out and about. Download a white-noise ambient into your phone. You can then place your phone in your little one’s car seat or stroller. The many sounds that this app provides will sooth your baby for a long time.

To preserve your sanity after having a new baby, do not be afraid to ask friends and family to give you and your new family some space or to ask them to pitch in with cooking or cleaning if they do visit. You and your spouse need time to adjust, bond and catch up on sleep.

Don’t expect an instant bond with your stepchildren. Kids are often upset that their parents split up, and may take that resentment out on you. Take your time and don’t rush things, so that any stepchildren can take their time getting to know you and feeling comfortable with you.

Give your child choices whenever you can. This can help to avoid the never ending battle of trying to get your child to do the one thing you want. A child is responsive to choices, even at a young age. It lets them feel a sense of control and accomplishment.

Get your child to do chores as soon as they’re able to understand what you’re saying. From an early age your toddler should be cleaning up their own toys. There is no harm in making it a game, and you can continue turning chores into competitions until your child is old enough to move out!

Just hold tight, breathe deeply and remember that tomorrow is another day. Implement the techniques we’ve supplied and come up with some of your own. Parenting is the hardest job on earth and there is no handbook or training that can truly prepare you for it. The beauty is that the foundation you are laying for your child, is well worth the effort!

Use These Tips To Help Parent Your Kids was originally published on Spring