Parenting is a multifaceted responsibility. We are charged with everything from the most mundane of tasks such as insuring our children keep their room clean, to tasks that could challenge a five star general. Sometimes simply breaking those tasks down into clearly understandable components can help us accomplish them with ease.

Clear some room on a counter near the sink, have your child lay down, and then run the faucet over his hair and skin. For many young children, this practice will be less fearful for them because they won’t have to worry about having water dumped over their heads or having to dunk their heads under water.

Even though you may get tired of your mother’s advice, you should always listen to what she says. Remember that she has, at the very least, raised you so she does have some previous experience. Also know when it is time to tell your relatives to back off a little. Advice is welcome, commands shouldn’t be.

Avoid arguing with your spouse in front of your children or their friends. It is important that the two of you show a united front, even if everything is not pure bliss on the marriage front. This does not mean you must act like the perfect couple, just that you are united in cases regarding children.

When your children quarrel, take the opportunity to teach them to respect the other child’s personal boundaries, to help resolve the problem. You can help them learn to respect personal boundaries by first giving them the words to express their own boundaries. Your child can then protect his or her boundaries by moving away from the problem.

Creating family rules using clear and positive words can reduce fighting and encourage cooperation. Saying “Touch gently” gets better results than “No hitting” does.

Read to your child often. Reading benefits your child in countless ways. Aside from the obvious entertainment value a child receives from hearing a wonderful story, studies show that from a very early age, a child’s vocabulary is boosted by leaps and bounds simply from hearing words being read to him. This helps to increase his success in school and in communication with others throughout his lifetime.

Never taunt or belittle your child, even in a joking manner. A child’s self esteem is nurtured or injured from the beginning of life by his parents. Instead of telling your child, “You did that wrong”, try saying “Good job! Now let’s try to do it another way.” The smile you receive from this positive comment will tell you how much your child counts on you to develop positive feelings about life.

Read to your child at least once a day. Children that are exposed to reading in this positive way will be much more likely to become avid readers themselves. Reading to them several times a day should be the desired goal but even if you only have time in your busy schedule for a quick bedtime story it will make a world of difference in how your child regards reading.

Overdressing can lead to a crabby baby! Babies get hot and uncomfortable wearing too much, just like we do. A good rule of thumb is to dress your baby the way you feel comfortable, whether for indoors or out. If it’s cool and you need a jacket, baby probably does too!

A great tip to help you become a better parent is to show your child the same respect that you want from him or her. You’re not likely to be respected by your child if you demand respect all the time and you aren’t respecting your child’s boundaries or ideas.

Make time to play with your child every single day. Even if you are busy, carve out half an hour to make a play date. This consistent play time has many benefits. It helps your child exercise, it builds the child’s imagination and it helps to increase the child’s self-esteem!

Try making a special reading area for your children. Put some appealingly arranged shelves full of books appropriate to their age group and a comfortable place to sit and read. Encourage them to use the space by making a reading corner time each day, and if possible, let them see you reading during this time as well.

One of the most important skills you can have as a parent is learning to stop and listen to your child. They need to be reassured that no matter how busy your life is, they can come and talk to you about an issue and know that they will be heard.

Clearly identifying what it is that we expect from our children and how we envision them meeting those expectations is an indispensable component of parenting. This article strives to help us do just that. The goal is to enhance the relationship between a parent and children while still accomplishing parental responsibilities.

Insightful Ideas That Make Parenting Much Easier! was originally published on Spring