Then it's important that you understand this: we are born with two instinctive fears: fear of loud noises and fear of corruption. Everything else is a fear of learning. Some of the fears learned are not only convenient, but also enable us to survive as a species.

When it comes to fires, for example, through trial and error, we have learned that if we try to touch it, we will be burned. If we stop in the middle of the road, we are likely to be run over. If you put your hand in the tiger's mouth, we will definitely lose it. These all make sense. Don't walk in the desolate dark alley, don't go home alone in the middle of the night, or don't try to take a rabid dog… We don't have to go through the bite of a snake to know that if we are alone, we are at In danger.

But what about the fear of spiders? If you live in the Australian outback and encounter a poisonous spider, avoid it, running or doing anything you have to do makes sense so you don't get bitten. If you live in Ireland, and your father's long legs happily hang from the ceiling, anxiety is just a stupid thing that is bad for your health.

We have a built-in combat or flight response to help us deal with danger, my guess is that it doesn't mean seeing daddy long legs. This is an example of learning useless fear.

When you are a child, you probably won't be afraid of spiders or any other insects. In fact, like many other kids, you may be very curious about them and try to catch them and even eat them! I clearly remember spending a few hours catching the flies so that we can feed them to my grandparents' nesting spiders. Farm wall. This is a bad operation, a despicable operation, but the boy we like it!

Undoubtedly, it is a million times larger than any spider, and it can tell us that it is really a spider that should tremble with fear, not us, by a single pedal or a brush to destroy the most. However, if you have noticed that they seem to ignore us most of the time, keep themselves, and either continue to build their networks or catch flies or other bugs, we are usually scared.

We humans also have something called expectation: we can expect good things and terrible things that can happen. Most of us have never experienced a plane crash, but this does not stop some people from sitting on the plane. They have butterflies in their stomachs, sweat on their hands, and feeling uncomfortable. However, anticipating horrible stimuli may trigger the same reaction as the actual experience.

Adjustment also plays an important role: adjustment is why some people like dogs and others are afraid of them. Maybe when they were children, they were bitten by dogs. Since then, their brains have recognized that all dogs are dangerous, even though we actually know that this is not true.

Some studies have shown that humans may be genetically inclined to fear certain harmful things such as spiders, snakes and mice. Animals that once constituted a real danger to us because they are toxic or injured diseases.

But according to recent research, the most common fears today are: terrorist attacks, spiders, death, failure, war, highlands, crime/violence, loneliness, the future, nuclear war…

Frequent fear is the normal part of life. However, suffering from chronic phobia can be physically and emotionally debilitating. So how can you overcome your fears so you can continue to do things?

1. Get professional help: If people repeatedly tell you "don't be stupid" work, I believe that you are not bad now. NLP and hypnosis can help you eliminate fear very effectively and faster than you think. No matter why you have fear, it doesn't matter how you start or how long you have. It's about fixing your thoughts so you can build new, more useful memories that make you feel more relaxed about this particular thing, activity or situation. You don't have to fall in love with spiders or bugs or anything else… you may just be indignant and feel comfortable with yourself.

2. Get Thinking: Know what you are afraid of. Lack of knowledge is often an important part of fear. Knowing what you are afraid of can really help you eliminate this fear. For example, do you know that spiders have a very positive and important impact on our ecosystem? They help manage insect populations by eating large numbers of insects. In addition, medical research using spider venom has produced several chemicals that can be used to control or treat human diseases. Spider venom can save your life!

3. Get exposed: When I was a child, a big dog ran wildly to me and almost bit me. Since then, I have been a little wary of dogs. Especially small… I know that it doesn't make sense! Many of our fears are meaningless. Some people may have been restricted by our parents. Some of my own fears may be the result of things that happened a long time ago, or things that happened almost once, but never happened. Some people are constrained by the movies we watched. When it's viewed in a vivid color panoramic screen, it's easy to be afraid of something with the right sound. NLP helps you put things into perspective by running more useful, better movies in your mind, so you can feel more reassured about what you've been scared of in the past. If you can, it's important to test yourself, just to make sure you are good now. This is why I collect spiders at home for later use with customers. Nothing is more than exposure to know that you are over!

Fear and phobia – how to overcome them so you can continue to use it was originally published on Spring